We look at our reflection in a mirror and we don’t get to see the beauty in our faces and bodies. Our eyes are blurred with years of insults and being neglected, because we never fell under the cookie cutter idea of beauty.
People don’t understand that I still get excited when I’m called beautiful or just simply pretty. I spent years looking at myself in front of a mirror convincing myself that I was worth looking at, feeling beautiful, and most of all being loved.
When I say that I’m not used to hearing compliments they give me that “stop-fishing-for-compliments-face.” As much as we all say that we don’t care what others think or say about us, we really do. I remember at one point looking in the mirror and seeing beauty but words that said otherwise sadly overcame what I saw.
I see all these fat women now and even better, young girls claiming their beauty and honoring their bodies and this brings ultimate and unfiltered joy. I tear up every time I see a picture of a fat girl claiming her beauty. I wish I would had done the same. I wish I would have known better. Have we forgotten how much progress fat women and men have had in just a few years? How much we have learned to love ourselves.
When I was a little girl no one ever described me as beautiful. I always heard “you could be pretty” or even worse “you will be pretty when you lose weight.” These comments and many more similar to these are so damaging. These words of abuse still haunt me till this day. I’m still fighting those comments that once made me believe I was not beautiful. The only reason why I am writing these words is so that every little girl crying herself to sleep because she can’t feel as beautiful as her friend, remembers that you are beautiful NOW and you don’t have to wait.
Lets embrace our similarities but most of all lets celebrate our differences and our “flaws.” Whether they seem to be going through a bad moment and specially if they seem like they aren’t. If they were like me at a young age they will never admit they feel like this. I pretended that those comments and negativity never got to me and its hard to say something when you project otherwise and announce that you aren’t being hurt. Please share this with those who might need a reminder of who they really are and how truly beautiful they were and are.